Let go



Have you ever been told to ‘let go’? Perhaps you’ve been stewing about someone’s behaviour that you perceive as being defective, or maybe you had an unresolved argument with someone and it’s sticking in your craw. Being able to ‘let go’ is not so easily done by those of us with OCD. When something bothers you, the obsessive aspect of your disorder takes the stage and makes it almost impossible to ignore because of the shiny costume it wears. It demands that you focus your attention on:

  • What you should have said/done
  • What the other person should have said/done
  • The belief that your opinion was the right one
  • The thought that the actions of the other person were wrong

When you see injustice, deceit, and less than kind behaviour from others within your day, it’s difficult to ‘let go’. You feel as if it is your job to ensure those actions are recognized by the masses – you are the Kindness and Truth Police.

This obsession ultimately leads to more stress upon your heart than the people exhibiting the behaviour are worth. The ability to ‘let go’ and allow the masses to discover the truth for themselves boils down to showing kindness to yourself. Again, not so easily done by those challenged with OCD, but certainly something to strive towards.

Have you ever been told to ‘let go’? Were you able to? Share your secret…


What message does your business marketing send?



You came up with a business idea, ordered your business cards, and started working on your marketing strategy. Congratulations! You are among the many fledgling entrepreneurs who roam the earth in search of prosperity, recognition, and time flexibility.

While being a business owner is a wonderful thing, it comes with responsibilities. One of those responsibilities is marketing. In some instances, your chosen field will restrict where and how you can market your business. Generally, though, your marketing plan should include the following:

  • Attending networking events to meet your audience
  • Direct marketing using brochures and/or flyers
  • Advertising through print
  • Blog articles to position yourself as an expert in your field
  • Publicity including press releases
  • Featuring your product or service at trade shows
  • Developing an effective website, including strong content

We’ve all seen examples of poorly done websites, filled with content that makes your eyes hurt. Consider this excerpt, taken from a web develoment company:

we are comminted to educating and assisting small and medium businesses (smb) identify internet-based, website solutions to enable e-commerce and effective marketing of their business online. we have over 15 years of expereince working with web projects. we combine innovative design with efficient code structure, resulting in improved search engine results and increased accessibility and web usability. 

The inability to use proper grammar and spelling shows the reader (potential client) that this business can’t be bothered to ensure their website content is error free. If they can’t pay attention to detail, what other aspects of their business will they ignore? They don’t seem to respect their reader’s (again, potential client’s) intelligence by ensuring their website content is error free. Would you trust their ability to provide website services?

You want your business to succeed. An important predictor of that success is the content of your website, social media posts, and marketing materials. Trust a professional to do the “wordy” workcontact me today!





How turning 42 brought wisdom


Today, I celebrate my birthday. They say that with age comes wisdom. After experiencing personal growth on this very day, perhaps this saying is correct.

I was able to care for myself today by making a decision that I knew would disappoint other people, but was the right choice for me. All my life, I’ve avoided confrontation, for fear it may hurt someone else. What I didn’t take into account was the fact that it was hurting someone – myself.

I hope you will celebrate with me, as I pat myself on the back for this small step towards a healthier, happier me.

Volunteering and networking




If you’re a business owner or someone trying to find a job, networking is vital to your success. What better way to network than through volunteering? Don’t know what you want to do or where to find volunteer opportunities? Here are a few simple steps to guide your quest:

  1. What hobbies do you enjoy? What are you passionate about? Are you a crafty person? Perhaps you’re good with words or have a way with animals. Make a list of your interests/talents/skills.
  2. Match those interests and skills with an organization that requires volunteers.
  3. Contact that organization and ask if you can volunteer with them.

As you begin volunteering, you’ll meet people with similar values to you. You’ll likely have the opportunity to participate in a fundraising event for the particular organization you’re volunteering with. Typically, fundraising events are advertised through local and social media.

This exposure can provide your business the chance to be associated with ‘doing good’, which gives potential clients and customers a positive view of you and your business. This positive view can lead to sales/referrals. If you’re seeking employment, consider all the potential employers you could meet!

Do you currently volunteer? Have you found it helpful in growing your business? Perhaps you’ve secured employment through volunteering. Share your story!

Early risers


Are you among the many early risers? My mother used to wake at 5 am for the sole purpose of enjoying her cup of coffee in peace and quiet before waking myself and my siblings.

As I age, I see the wisdom in her practice. There is something so peaceful about the early morning hours – the stillness allows my mind to focus. I like to take advantage of the quiet to review the day’s business goals, as well as celebrate the previous day’s accomplishments. Celebrating each step reached motivates me to continue the climb.

Are you someone who rises early?

Hidden Wealth


Wealth looks different to different people. A homeless person, with only a box to sleep in, who has shoes and a hat could perhaps be considered wealthy within the homeless community. Someone owning a home, vehicle, and various electronics would be considered wealthy, when compared to someone who is homeless.

There are those who own a large home, two vehicles, several different electronics, with plenty of food in the fridge, yet do not consider themselves wealthy. They compare themselves to others who have more. It’s a never ending contest:

  • Our homes are never big enough
  • Our vehicles are never fast enough
  • Our clothes are never trendy enough.

Comparisons never get you closer to your goals,

unless comparing your past self to your present self!

Being aware of your strengths, talents, challenges, and desires makes you wealthy. There are many throughout the world who have more money than they will ever need, but still they are sad – they do not possess a sense of self. They are not aware of what they were meant to give to the world – their true calling. In their heart, they long for something but are not sure of what it is. Possessions do not fill the void.

Within your life and your business, look for the hidden wealth. Take the time to allow for introspection. Discover your strengths, talents, challenges, and desires. Find out what makes you who you are – what you can give to the world, your community, and to your self. Find your hidden wealth!

Share your thoughts with everyone – those who know your goals will often help you achieve them!

Happiness is not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of creative effort.
Franklin D. Roosevelt

When did being negative become a crime?

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Think positively! Don’t be so negative! Turn that frown upside down!

There are days when I seriously want to rip my hair out when I hear those phrases. Since when is it a crime to be sad, angry or afraid? After all, these feelings are part of our emotional range as humans and sometimes life just sucks. Being so angry you want to punch something, or so sad that you weep uncontrollably, are healthy emotional reactions to intense circumstances.

It is true that seeing the brighter side of life, finding beauty in others and our surroundings, and recognizing lessons in every challenge are excellent traits to have. You’ll enjoy your time on earth more and most likely will be a healthier person. The key is not allowing your spirit to be swallowed up by these so called ‘negative’ emotions.

Allow yourself to fully feel these intense negative emotions, for however long you need to. The trick is recognizing when time is up. When it is, here’s what you do:

  • Square your shoulders
  • Tell your negative feelings their time is up
  • Remind yourself of your strength, beauty, talents, and blessings
  • Put a smile on your face

This is what works for me. How about you?

Why you need a vision board

vision board

Do you have a vision board? Vision boards are a visual representation of our hopes and dreams. They typically consist of photos, magazine pictures, words, stickers, anything that is meaningful to you. These meaningful objects will remind you of the reasons you strive to realize your dream:

  • Why do you want your dream to come true?
  • What will you do once your goal is achieved?
  • How will reaching your goal affect your life?
  • Will anyone else be impacted when you reach your goal?
  • When would you like to realize your dream?

With the last point, setting a time limit is key. This allows you a date to focus on, motivating you to work each day on the steps needed to reach your goal. Set a realistic date, keeping in mind the time commitment you can afford and other necessary components you may require.

Place your vision board somewhere that is highly visible to you throughout your day. Alternatively, there are several programs available that allow you to create an online vision board, so you are reminded of your goals while working at your computer. That reminder will help keep you motivated when frustration strikes.

Who are you?


Who are you?

If someone asked who you are, what would you answer? You would probably state your name, talk about your job, your kids/spouse and maybe your physical appearance. Or maybe you would talk about what makes you unique. Consider this acronym – WHO:

W: What talents or special skills do you have? What about unique hobbies?

H: Have you made a difference in the world? Have you changed someone’s life, even in a small way? This isn’t an exercise in pride, but an exercise is recognizing your worth and your ability to reach out beyond yourself.

O: Open up to others – it’s how we humans connect. Have you helped someone else on their journey by opening up to them? Knowing others face similar challenges can be very healing.

WHO am I? I am a woman, mother, wife, educator, and writer. I trust my intuition, I love to sing, and my special skill is the ability to rapidly recite the alphabet backwards.

WHO are you? Please share!

“He who has a ‘why to live’ can bear with almost any ‘how’” Friedrich Nietzsche

4 tips to managing Facebook groups


Facebook. Like it or not, it’s probably here to stay, at least for a while. The world of Facebook has brought families together and torn them apart. It’s given rise to an industry and created yet another business marketing strategy. Facebook groups can be sources of support for those dealing with debilitating health issues, as well as industry-specific sources of advice and referrals.

Other groups, created for selling used items, can be great for bargain hunting. These types of groups can also be a hotbed of drama. Far too many people wish to find inexpensive items (sometimes giving fake sob stories to receive things for free) in order to post those items minutes later into a different group with a large price tag attached. I understand the concept of ‘buy low, sell high’. Scamming people by pulling at their heart strings, however, is disgusting.

If you happen to be an admin of a Facebook group, and wish to minimize the chance of scam artists joining your group,  please consider these recommendations:

  • Ensure your group is ‘closed’. This gives you control over the membership.
  • Before you accept someone into your group, scope out their profile. If they haven’t had a Facebook page for more than a few months, I would hesitate to accept them into your group.
  • Ask existing group members if they recognize the name of the person requesting to join.
  • Send a private message to the person requesting access to your group. Explain the group’s guidelines and request that the guidelines be followed before the person is granted access.

Your time is valuable. You don’t want to be constantly monitoring your group, watching for unwanted posts or reading messages from existing group members who want you to deal with those posts. Ensuring scam artists stay out of the group to begin with will save you future issues.