Let go



Have you ever been told to ‘let go’? Perhaps you’ve been stewing about someone’s behaviour that you perceive as being defective, or maybe you had an unresolved argument with someone and it’s sticking in your craw. Being able to ‘let go’ is not so easily done by those of us with OCD. When something bothers you, the obsessive aspect of your disorder takes the stage and makes it almost impossible to ignore because of the shiny costume it wears. It demands that you focus your attention on:

  • What you should have said/done
  • What the other person should have said/done
  • The belief that your opinion was the right one
  • The thought that the actions of the other person were wrong

When you see injustice, deceit, and less than kind behaviour from others within your day, it’s difficult to ‘let go’. You feel as if it is your job to ensure those actions are recognized by the masses – you are the Kindness and Truth Police.

This obsession ultimately leads to more stress upon your heart than the people exhibiting the behaviour are worth. The ability to ‘let go’ and allow the masses to discover the truth for themselves boils down to showing kindness to yourself. Again, not so easily done by those challenged with OCD, but certainly something to strive towards.

Have you ever been told to ‘let go’? Were you able to? Share your secret…


How to focus when you can’t focus



Focus. Wikipedia defines it as “selectively concentrating on one aspect of the environment while ignoring other things”. When your to-do list is filled with tasks that require focus, choosing one and ignoring the others may be challenging. So challenging, in fact, that your mind wanders to other distractions, such as social media.

This lack of focus is a daily reality for many. Often, inability to focus can be a sign of depression, ADD/ADHD, or other disorder. A quick Google search will yield dozens of possible reasons and remedies for lack of focus, including the use of drugs.  Your lack of focus may point to a different issue, however – something that medicine cannot cure.

Be kind to yourself when trying to ascertain where your lack of focus stems from. Perhaps you need to examine your task list:

  • Look honestly at your situation. Do you have the time to complete the tasks on your list?
  • Are there unnecessary tasks or projects that can be delayed? Take them off the list.

Most importantly, forgive yourself for not meeting your own expectations. For those of us with perfectionist/type A personalities, this is a difficult place to get to. We often have a set of rules for ourselves that we would never place upon anyone else, nor would anyone else accept. Why must we cause so much stress for ourselves?

This is the million dollar question…

That ugly 3-way between priorities, distraction and mental-health


I haven’t written for myself in a while. I have been busy accomplishing the daily tasks associated with motherhood and employment. Because I haven’t made myself a priority and have allowed distractions into my life, I have noticed a distinct decline in my ability to cope with all the fun and exciting mental-health related issues that arise for me.

Walking past a grocery store shelf and not stopping to ensure all the soup can labels are facing outwards is one example. When I give myself time to write, the compulsions and obsessions have a way out of my head, giving me some control over my OCD.

With 2014 quickly approaching, it will be a year to take control of my mental-health. The year 2013 brought with it big changes, namely taking control of my eating disorder. This had a lot to do with turning 40 and the realization that my health was MY responsibility. Starving my body of nutrients, all for a perceived notion of control and perfection, was no longer an option. My mental-health will be given the same attention and priority, as it directly affects my physical health.

What is on your list of resolutions for 2014?